A lot of negative thoughts go through our mind on a daily basis. Just look at what we are fed in media every day. We are bombarded mostly with negative news. They have such a big influence on our mind, on our way of thinking. In this blog post, I share with you some simple tricks on how you can change that and brainwash yourself into a positive thinker.
“Wow, Miha! You really are not from this world!” That’s what I’m used now to hearing. “Why do you say that?”, I ask. “Well, because of the way you are and you never stress out about anything!”
By the way, there must be something really wrong with our societies that view stress as something normal. But that’s not the point here…
I’m not a Buddhist or anything, then how do I manage to live like this? Well, it’s pretty simple, actually.
I wasn’t always like this. I used to be a “normal” guy like any other, who got stressed a lot because of work and what other people did. But through the years I’ve been learning the valuable lessons that life has taught me.
It doesn’t take seven years in Tibet to achieve a peaceful and meaningful way of life.
Let’s go back a bit here…to the day you were born. You had no clue whatsoever about the place you had arrived to. You were just a pretty little rosy-cheeked baby, ignorant of the world and its ways.
As you grew up, you started getting influenced by your parents and family; then in school by your teachers and later on by your colleagues, your job’s concepts and other friends and relationships.
We get influenced by everything around us! This is called habitus, a term coined by Pierre Bourdieu. It refers to the ways of thinking, acting, and feeling that are associated with society and culture.
What if…you had been born in another country to another family? You would be a completely different person, even if it was still you.
Sadly, I live in a country where there is a lot of negativity. And I dare say this happens in many places all around the world. What’s it like in your country? Do you also sense this way of thinking?
To be raised in a society like this makes it so hard to have a positive life. You must see past the negativity around you to find opportunities and happiness.
I mean it! At least for a holiday, you know. That’s what helped me so much. I was always traveling a lot. I got to meet all sorts of people and cultures. This gave me a broader perspective of the world we all live in.
Recognizing the differences between you and the other makes you realize how big this world is, and recognizing the similarities brings you closer to them.
So then life becomes easier, lighter and happier. After you understand that your whole life you have been brainwashed, it’s like a revelation.
As soon as you question your own philosophies and habits, you are already growing. You just need to dig deeper into your mind and learn from yourself.
Then you have to start “brainwashing” yourself in the other direction. This is…the positive direction.
This is a process and it takes a while. Like gardening, nothing grows overnight, no matter how much you wish it to.
You need to embark now on this journey. Consciously place into your head positive thoughts and encouragement.
How? Travel! Talk to new people and actually listen to what they have to say! Watch TED Talks! Listen to your favorite music as often as you can! Do the things that inspire you the most!
The decision to change your life can be made in one second, but the actual process is what takes time. It can be months or even years before you start seeing results.
But I promise you this. One day you’ll wake up and realize how different you are from the person who started this. And then you’ll see it’s all worth it.
I was brainwashed on the negative side and now that I made myself think positively, things are looking better. I lead a happy and confident life. As hard as it is to believe, I never stress out. Just ask my friends!
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